Step number two taking action I saw in last video we will look at the first step anyone must take in
order to progress in life.
Make a decision not a half hard decision but a fully committed decision to change to change who they
are how they are how they conduct themselves how the act how they behave.
Their art should everything.
If someone is stuck in a dead end job you know that's their choice.
If someone is stuck in a dead end relationship you know that's their choice.
Until someone chooses to raise their standards and commit to moving forward in life there's nothing
that you as a life coach can do with them anyway.
Look I'm just telling you the truth here right.
This is how things actually are sort how it is that I'm able to recognize where other people are taking
coaching seriously or not is through the actions that they take because you can say right now yes I've
made a decision to change something about my life.
But if you haven't yet taken action then I guess you decisions are going to be a little bit questionable
because guess what speaks louder than words.
That's right you've most likely heard the saying in life.
Actions speak louder than words.
No.
On a personal level on a professional level and a working level on a social level.
If there was one type of people who infuriate me more than all others it's the talkers.
No in the realm of online education there are millions of talkers out there talkers who will just regurgitate
information with year and textbook answers and theories.
And that's Naseby.
Read all that stuff in a book can't you.
And guess what the world's really criolo for is people who actually understand what they're talking
about.
People who are talking from experience because experience are the one that gives us insight and wisdom.
No ACARS because there's a big difference between cockers and doers and life talkers talk about doing
things do or just do things talker's.
I personally find exhausting of work with people in the past.
On a professional level web developers who talk about all these grand ideas these fantastic plans.
There was one guy particularly in that in the past who spent the better part of six months doing a two
or three or Skype call with every single day.
No because he was talking about doing all the stuff I genuinely believe he was actually doing stuff
he wasn't.
There is a big difference between talk and you hours talkers talk about doing things do or just get
shit on and to be honest with you and life coaching.
You can actually afford to be spending your time or selling your time to talker's.
It may be the case that you know the idea of just having a diary full of appointments where people just
come to you and become dependent.
And yeah every single week is fine.
In which case good luck with that you're never going to find that rewarding and realistically no one
is ever going to pay you more than the minimum bog standard going rate because people who want results
in life and who don't know how to get results will pay people who do know how to get results.
I know I've found this over the years.
Over the years my I really rate has has gone from I think I started out at 15 pounds an hour going back
a few years ago when I was just testing the water I didn't really know what I was doing I was just figuring
all this stuff out.
But very quickly because I'm quite a fast learner.
I went from 15 lbs no work for 35 pounds never had a full diary.
In fact the first year of my life and practice I spent figuring out my craft and saying I was still
work I how to communicate and interact with other people in the most effective way.
I was taken action and made a decision to be a coach.
No I was taking action.
I was reading books I was studying other people modelling other people's techniques and strategies to
find out what worked for me.
So you're one I was kind of building in developing the business.
And by the end of year one filled my diary.
I even had people waiting for coaching the second year of my life coaching practice practice.
I was working full capacity pretty much the whole year whilst starting to create online courses.
This was something that I'd been introduced to something that started dabbling in.
I'm still working with the clients clients clients and in my mind side and I was giving a lot of coaching
away for free to ex military guys just something that I'm passionate about.
That's my way of giving something back if you like.
But what I quickly realized after the second year in business that in all working no fool.
The past isn't sustainable because you all have so many hours and a day I begin to recognize that packaging
up my information my understandings my knowledge and insights into online courses like gless was going
to be a very sustainable way for me to make residual income because here's a thing about residual income.
If you're making money when you sleep from information you've packaged up and you're selling to people
elsewhere doesn't demand any of your time.
And this gets you back your time.
The time that you were previously spending working with clients which means that you then don't actually
have to work from money anymore you don't need to work or take particular outlines because you need
the money.
You can just simply work with those that you want to know today.
The only people that are work with are young guys who work with young guys who are younger than me.
Not girls not because I'm sexist it's because i'm because of my the know no respect from a former wife
who just walk with women.
I wouldn't put myself in a room with younger or the woman I just wouldn't do that anymore used to.
But I don't because I don't need to charge for coaching anymore when I work with young guys.
I do saw guys who are who are active they're proactive they're they're the perhaps angry guys.
X x Forces guys guys I find really rewarding when I'm able to help them move forward in life.
I guess what I've learned is that as a life coach and when it comes to spending time with those guys
I don't find myself as a Life Coach I guess I see myself more as a father figure a role model because
many of the guys that are caught didn't have that when they were young.
Many guys have a coach in fact didn't have any father figure role models whatsoever.
And the closeness of the men were hard which you've got no idea how rewarding that is.
Were talking about taking action here and this is how I hope I determine who is that I say yes to and
who are seen or two people that actually fall through in their words.
And this is something that I would urge you to seriously consider.
I do appreciate what you're first starting out.
The number one goal is just to get clients and just to get practicing.
I appreciate that.
But what I'm saying here is more of a vision for the long term.
All right.
Once you have established it's not going to be rewarding you're not going to find it for fehling just
working with people who are coming and becoming dependent on you.
You're only ever going to find that exciting and rewarding when you see people take an action based
or as a direct result of some of the input or coaching or other guidance that you've offered them.
Trust me this is true promise.
So this is the second step the seven step current framework.
This is how we come to recognize where people are.
Identify the rule that we can play in the context of the culture in a relationship.
First things first.
It doesn't matter what problem they have if the husband made a decision to change.
If they're still waiting for their circumstance to change or in the context of a problem problematic
marriage they're waiting for the power to change.
Well that's never going to happen.
The only thing that we have any control over in life is how it is that we choose to react or respond
to the situations and the circumstances that we find ourselves in in life.
So we can naively wait for our situations and circumstances to change.
We can wait for other people to change.
We can wait for the weather to change.
We can wait for the economy to change or we can take control of the process and we can change.
We do this to take an immediate action.
So this is the second step and the seven step framework how you apply this how you actionless how you
interpret it is entirely up to you.
I'm just being as honest as physically possible.
So that's just for this for you.
There are many articles straut workbooks attached to most of these.
Most of it was in the section by the way.
Remember to check them out in the additional materials section and spend a few minutes to work through
each of them.
This section is kind of all about you.
It's about you asking the questions.
Okay so how does this information relate to you and how can you apply it.
First and foremost how can you start taking action.
How can you start making different decisions to change and what action to take.
But that's often no.
I look forward to seeing you in the next venue.
We're going to look at the next practical step.
We want to see our clients taking.